“WHAT WAS THAT?”

It always gives me mixed feelings when I am asked this question.

First, I am a bit elated because I have helped her experience something she has never experienced before. Immediately after a powerful orgasm, I will sometimes have a woman look me in the eyes and ask this question. I always can’t help but smile and say, “now that was an orgasm.” They are almost always happy and sometimes they will even laugh.

But a few months ago, I had a service with B, a lovely 51 year-old divorced woman. She had been married for many years, raised children, and had only been back out dating for a few years. By any measure, she is a beautiful woman. Curvy in all of the right ways with lovely blue eyes, porcelain skin, long wavy dark brown hair, and a devilish smile. But when she asked me this question, it was different. Tears were already flowing from her wide-opened eyes, her face and neck were bright red, and her breathing still a bit labored.

“What was that?

“That was an orgasm, B” I reassured her, my right hand still firmly placed in a grounding position over her trembling vagina and my left hand gently placed behind her neck.

“No— that was different” she pleaded. “I’ve had orgasms before and that was something different!”

I smiled reassuringly and lied beside her as we engaged in a tender conversation about her sexual history. Like many women, her sexual history began unpleasantly in high school, with a fumbling teenage boy after a party in the back seat of his mother’s Honda. She knew she hadn’t had an orgasm, and shared that she was devastated when the same boy gave her the cold shoulder the following Monday in their English class. She summed up the experience by saying that she felt used.

With such an unsatisfying and emotionally taxing first sexual experience, it was no surprise to me that her next one wasn’t until years later when she was about to graduate college. And she smiled when she shared that she’d made that “poor boy” wait nearly six months before they finally consummated their relationship. She said her favorite parts were how he looked in her eyes and how he kissed her. She said he made her feel so desired. She said the sex was enjoyable and that she’d always thought she was having orgasms with him. Their courtship ended when he went across the country for graduate school. She visited him once, but could tell that he had emotionally moved on. So they parted ways.

Then B went through what she called her “slutty years” while she shared an apartment with a roommate from college. During that time, she would enjoy occasionally bringing men back to her place, where she felt safe. She said there were a few highlights during that period, but that those sexual experiences were unremarkable and often alcohol or drug-fueled.

Then at 25, B met C and she was smitten. C was a tall and handsome man 7 years her senior. He was fun and funny and she enjoyed how even though he held a serious professional job- he was always the life of the party. They partied together and laughed together and had an active sex life. She said they would usually have sex 3-4 times each week and that she wouldn’t always orgasm but insisted she really enjoyed it during their early years together.

“How long would your sex sessions last?” I asked her.

“Usually around 15 minutes. That’s good, right?”

I smiled gently. “Does that 15 minutes include foreplay?”

“Yes, like 10 minutes of foreplay and 5 minutes of actual sex” she said.

“And did you ever experience orgasms with C?” I asked.

“Most of the time- no. But I still enjoyed having sex with him.” I think she sensed what I was about to say.

“Most women’s bodies take a very long time to become fully aroused. What you just experienced with me was actually a complete orgasm.”

B brought her hands to her face and began weeping. I tried to comfort her with a warm embrace. She buried her face in my neck and hugged me firmly with both arms. I just held her like that for about 10 minutes until she was able to calm down and gather herself.

“I’m 51 years old Rick. Are you telling me I just had my first real orgasm?”

I carefully considered my reply before speaking. “Better late than never, right?”

We both laughed for a moment then engaged in a nearly hour-long discussion about what I had observed about B and her ascent to orgasm with me. I assured her that she and her body were very responsive, and that I believed she was capable of regularly enjoying great orgasms like she had earlier. I noted that I had been working on her body for nearly three hours and she couldn’t believe so much time had passed. Since that evening’s big orgasm took nearly 3 hours, it’s no wonder 15 minutes had never been enough for B. She also explained that she rarely masturbated, and I encouraged her to explore her body that way and warned that she was likely to experience a very strong increase in libido in the coming days. She asked me lots of questions about different types of orgasms and I was happy to share what I had learned. I also encouraged her to demand that her next sexual partner first kiss her and give her all of the foreplay her body needed before sex. She promised she would.

Finally, I asked B my favorite question I ask each of my clients… “would you like another one?”

She did. And after a bathroom and water break, she had two more. After her final and biggest climax she let out such a loud and guttural scream, I was concerned someone might call hotel security. 😊 I left B’s hotel room that night knowing that I had just opened her up to an exciting sexual awakening. Since our first session, I see B about once a month, and she is happy to share her latest sexual experiences- good and bad. She shares all of her favorite new sex toys and positions. And she was very excited to share that her latest beau, K, has some exceptional skills in the bedroom. But best of all, she shares how excited she is to be living a free and sexually fulfilled life.

Because most women have never experienced a completely one-way intimate encounter where she is the recipient, they don’t know what they are missing. Going into my service, I make it very clear to my clients that I am there only to serve them. This frees every woman to relax and focus on what they are feeling. It frees their mind to enjoy the sensations and their body to respond.

Every woman should, at least once in their life, enjoy a nice slow and tantalizing yoni massage from a formally-trained practitioner like myself. You might discover something new!😉

YoniMaster Rick