IS A YONI MASSAGE CHEATING?
This is a very important question for my partnered clients to seriously consider. And the answer varies from one couple to another. And since half of my clients are in committed relationships, I believe this question should be weighed by any woman before she reaches out to book a service with me.
Cheating is an instance of betrayal and a violation of the partner’s trust. It refers to when a person in a committed partnership breaks the agreements that they and their partner have made around loyalty. But what constitutes cheating to one couple might not be considered cheating to another.
Today’s more open-minded sexual landscape is much more prone to conclude that yoni massage is not cheating. Open marriages, where each party to the relationship is free to explore and enjoy sexual experiences with others outside the marriage, are more prevalent than ever. As are “swinging” couples or “hotwives” who regularly enjoy incorporating others into their sex lives. I would estimate that women in these non-traditional relationships comprise about one-third of my partnered clients in New York. For these more open-minded couples, the prospect of a yoni massage provider offering a unique and fulfilling sexual experience for the woman is appealing to both the man and woman. And I am also seeing more couples who want me to train the husband how to perform effective yoni massage services for his wife. With both of them present, I can actually help him identify certain specific techniques to which his wife’s body responded. So for these couples, a yoni massage sought for her by both parties to the relationship would not appear to breach any trust in those relationships.
And whether you agree with these modern relationships or not, we must acknowledge that they distinguish the other components of a committed relationship from sexual gratification from outside of the relationship. And for many couples today, that type of arrangement works. Apps like Feeld, 3Somer, and SwingLifestyle are ever-expanding places for open-minded couples or singles to find other like-minded people for sexual adventures. The rapidly-growing expansion of these apps suggests that yoni massage would be welcomed by an expanding group of open-minded couples.
But for many traditional married or partnered couples, a woman who meets with a skilled yoni massage provider to receive intimate touching that culminates in orgasms would be violating the traditional expectations for loyalty and exclusivity within a relationship. And there are so many variables that make it a much more difficult question. For example- if a woman’s husband is unable to engage in intimacy with her, is she cheating when she books a service with me in order to nurture her sexual needs? What about a woman whose husband is simply unwilling to engage in any intimacy with her? Or what about a woman whose partner is a selfish sexual nightmare, only concerned with his own gratification and never hers? Or a woman whose partner, despite repeated efforts, simply cannot give her the orgasms her body desires? These certainly require more careful consideration, at the very least.
I understand that many people more comfortable in a traditional exclusive relationship will read this and fall into two camps: one which suggests that her commitment and loyalty to her partner is paramount to her sexual needs; and another which suggests that divorce is her remedy rather than seeking out any sexual gratification outside of the marriage. I do not expect that this article will change the minds of anyone holding onto traditional ideals of exclusivity in a relationship. However, I am hopeful that even those for whom a yoni massage would be cheating will at least consider a thoughtful conversation about the topic with their partner. Some clients have shared that they were extremely surprised when their husband actually embraced the idea of “outsourcing” some intimacy - especially if their wife was able to enjoy it. Other committed husbands have been excited at the prospect of gaining some insight into techniques that might enhance his own ability to sexually please his wife. And many men, who are often visually stimulated, would love to have a front-row seat to their wife receiving sexual pleasure, especially knowing that the provider was respectful and posed no threat to the sanctity of their relationship.
So for those women in a committed relationship considering booking a service with me— I recommend you first have a conversation with your partner. Only after you know where he stands can you make an informed decision.
YoniMaster Rick
