HOW ANY MAN CAN BECOME A BETTER LOVER…

Okay finally an article for the gentlemen out there. Many of my female clients have been asking me to put out an article like this one for a long time.

One of the sad realities of men is that most are very insecure when it comes to pleasing a woman. Even sadder though are the ones whose confidence in their status as a great lover is entirely inaccurate. So for all of you men willing to set aside your insecurities and fragile ego for a moment, I am going to arm you with some exceptionally good advice about how to quickly become a better lover. Pay attention!

Wait until you know she needs it.

Timing is very important for women. Men must understand and appreciate that you simply cannot always just spring the idea of sex onto a woman with little or no notice. A woman needs more time to get into a proper headspace where she is ready for it. We men are always walking around with a proverbial bullet in the chamber. For most women it is different. Many women simply must be in a nice space and mindset before her mind or body are ready for sexy time. If you can’t tell, ask her.

One of my favorite moves is to let my partner know that I’m taking an shower and that when I come to bed, I’ll be hoping she’s ready. This achieves multiple goals. First, it lets her know clearly that I want her. Second, my time in the shower will give her time to freshen up and prepare, if she needs to. Finally, if she just isn’t in the mood, it gives her a chance to let me know. And if ever I am turned down, I take it in stride and alert her to the fact that I will be expecting a rain check for use some time soon.

For her, the buildup is everything. Communicate. Touch her.

I think most of the time men can do many little things to get their woman ready for sex. And many of these things can be done far ahead of time. One thing I try to do is to be helpful. Small things like clearing off the table after dinner or tucking in the kids to bed can really put your lady into an appreciative state of mind.

Compliments are essential. And your compliments don’t even need to be sexy. For example, letting your lady know that she’s really doing great with the kids or the house or her new job. But I believe that sexy compliments are also really important. Your lady usually already knows those parts of her really turn you on— but don’t be afraid to remind her. If you really enjoy the way she looks in those jeans, or with her hair that way, or that color lipstick— let her know. Trust me, sincere compliments might be one of the best ways to soften up your lady for an exhilarating sexual encounter later on that day or night.

Touch is also essential to help move most women’s bodies toward desiring sex. Sometimes just the action of giving her a hug when you come home, putting your arm around her while you watch tv together, or even encouraging her to place her feet in your lap so you could gently rub them. Each of these moves creates a physical connection between you and your lady, signaling your desire to connect with her physically.

Kiss her.

So many married couples forget how to kiss. Kissing is such a sensual experience- especially for a woman. You embrace and join mouths, tasting each other in a feast for the senses. When a man kisses a woman, she cannot speak and can only accept his warm and loving embrace. When she kisses back, she is communicating that her body is his to take. While kissing styles vary widely, like any other act of lovemaking, I always recommend you start gently and let your hands explore her sexy body. Let her hands explore yours. Too many men see kissing as a local stop on their express train to intercourse. However, kissing is such a simple way to reconnect and to ignite your woman’s desire. Kiss her.

Her first.

Too many men are selfish lovers. No woman wants a selfish lover. Therefore, do not be a selfish lover!

Being a great lover is much like being the conductor of an orchestra. Her body is a glorious and beautiful collection of sexy feminine parts- each worthy of your love and affection. I recommend any man who wants to impress his partner with his sexual prowess— take care of her first. Lay her down comfortably. Let her know that you miss her body. Let her see you first feast on her body with your eyes. Then let your hands slowly roam around her delicious curves— and watch her dissolve into something that can only be compared to a purring kitten. She’s almost paralyzed by your loving touch, knowing only that she cannot move and that she doesn’t want it to stop. Give her body that tender, loving attention all women crave. And as you do, look and listen carefully. Take note of those parts of her body that make her sigh or gasp for air when she feels your hands upon them. See what movements make her breathing increase in pace and intensity. Take your time and give considerable attention to those parts of her body. Remember- you are in no hurry and you are focused solely upon her and upon her pleasure.

Do not have sex until after she has already had an orgasm.

If she sounds like she might be approaching orgasm— do not speed up! This is where most men go wrong. Because our male bodies are wired to demand more force and intensity as we near orgasm, we often assume hers does too. It doesn’t. Her body would much rather you slowly and deliberately bring her through a long path of pleasure before her orgasm. When you take your time getting her there, it is a much more fulfilling experience for her. Instead of trying to push her over the edge of the cliff— instead, try to see how long you can walk along the edge before she goes over on her own. Only after she achieves that first orgasm (or two or three) should you consider sex.

And just because you’ve already made her orgasm, it doesn’t necessarily mean it has to be your turn next. Take your time with her body. When she tells or shows you that she’s ready to feel you inside her, take your time. Know that for a woman who has already experienced an orgasm, sex can feel so much better than usual. So she is going to want you walking her along the edge of that cliff again- for as long as you can. She is going to still want to feel your embrace, your hands on her body, and to taste your kisses. Each of these are members of that female orgasm orchestra so ready to play.

While many of these might seem obvious, I hope these can be helpful.

YoniMaster Rick