DYING FOR SEX…
I recently enjoyed a wonderful new short series on Hulu called “Dying for Sex.” Starring Michelle Williams, the series follows Molly, a lovely young woman who receives the devastating news that she has terminal cancer. The reviews for the series are almost universally positive, and I expect Williams, Jenny Slate (who plays Molly’s best friend) and Rob Delaney (who plays Molly’s creepy neighbor and soon-to-be sexual subject) will all be celebrated for their work in this series. On a side note, if you’ve never seen Delaney’s series “Catastrophe,” go to Prime and feast away. It’s an absolutely sensational and timeless 4-season series that I still can’t understand why everyone isn’t talking about.
Dying for Sex really resonated with me and the work I do providing yoni massage services to women. Molly is in many ways very similar to most of my clients. She is intelligent, beautiful, sweet and extremely sexy. She is in a committed relationship with an insufferable man who loves her, but whose inability and/or unwillingness to sexually satisfy Molly are inexcusable. Molly is a sexually curious and adventurous woman who, like many of my clients, has set aside her own sexual needs and desires in exchange for stability, comfort and acceptance. What a mistake!
So when Molly realizes her time left to enjoy life is fading quickly, she leaves her partner. With the loving support of her sweet and scattered best friend (portrayed convincingly by Jenny Slate), Molly goes on a path of sexual discovery. I won’t give any more details other than to say, it is a fun, moving, and sweet ride.
I am always shocked when a new client explains that she has never had a sexually fulfilling relationship. For me, sexual chemistry and compatibility are essential to any loving relationship. Yet I have had clients who are married with grown kids, yet have never experienced an orgasm. I have had countless clients whose partner is completely disinterested in her sexual satisfaction, and others with a partner that is asexual (a person who does not experience sexual attraction). I am always astounded at a woman who chooses to neglect her own sexual needs. I’m sorry if that stings ladies, but yes— it is always a choice. Breakup and divorce are always an option, however unpleasant. And I will never accept that there are no satisfying lovers out there— I promise there are countless men who will have you simmering with joy every time he climbs into bed with you. You just need to keep looking!
The redemptive news is that most men who love their sexually unsatisfied partner are either unaware that she is wanting more, or clueless about how to provide what she needs. If a woman calmly and lovingly asks her partner to try something new sexually, most reasonable partners will happily give it a try or at least be willing to have a conversation about it. If he’s unwilling to even consider it, then she has a problem and may need to choose between ignoring her sexual needs or ending the relationship. However, she gave him the choice and he refused.
The fastest growing segment of my client base are couples. Either the wife or the husband (or both), realize that she is often sexually unfulfilled. So rather than open the relationship to strangers, they instead solicit my services for a couples training session. Before the session the three of us talk on the phone so I can explain the service and answer any questions either of them has for me. I explain how I will first provide an initial yoni massage on her, and then (after I have learned more about her body and its preferences) I will show him, step-by-step, how to provide her with a yoni massage that will yield fulfilling orgasms for her— every time. During the conversation and later when we meet, I make it clear that I am not a threat to her safety or to their relationship.
Let’s face it gentlemen, she already knows how to pleasure you. Most husbands, when shown my tips and techniques during a couples training session, are often quite surprised by what she enjoys and responds to. After she later begins having orgasms coerced by her husband, they will usually ask me to leave. And I leave with the satisfaction of knowing two things: (1) that I have just provided him with skills to ensure he can sexually satisfy her whenever she wants or needs; and (2) they are about to have the best sex of their lives right after I leave the room.
So the takeaway here is my encouragement for all of the women out there not to ignore your sexual needs. Every woman deserves to know exactly what it feels like to be sexually fulfilled and to have a partner willing to satisfy her needs. If he won’t try the new things your body is craving, ask him. If he is unwilling, either find someone who will or book a couples session with me and I’ll teach him. 😉
YoniMaster Rick
